Acceptance does not mean we agree with something or stand by something someone did. Acceptance means we accept things for what they are, accept things that are out of our control and we release anger, resentment and anything that may bind up our own energy around the situation or experience. Absolutely easier said than done, however, learning to accept is a practice and something we can improve overtime.
I see a lot of “let go” of things but how? We can only let go of something once we have acknowledged and have accepted. We cannot move forward without acknowledgment and acceptance. Through both, we are then able to alchemize and integrate the experience, the situation, the let down, the disappointment, the heartbreak, into a part of our story. We can then give our selves the healing and love or whatever we need to let go and move forward.
Believing we can let go of something without fully acknowledging and learning to accept it is, in my opinion, spiritual bypassing. Pretending you don’t feel a certain way or denying your own feelings is gaslighting yourself. Pretending something never happened leads to suppression, repression. This is indeed so much of the root of imbalance, illness and dis-ease we see throughout society.
Digestive issues…..What are you unable to digest fully, what is eating away at you?
Tension in the head or jaw…..what thoughts of the mind are you not speaking?
Chronic pain….what anger, resentment and pain are you holding on to?
Chronic inflammatory skin issues…..what is making your blood boil?
All of the above are symptoms of unaddressed emotions seeking acknowledgment and acceptance. Only then can we process, alchemize, transform, whatever is needed for said emotion, feeling or belief to heal, as each layer of healing is always different. E-motions are energy in motion and will speak through the manifestation of internal and external imbalance/symptoms of the mind and body until acknowledged and accepted. We cannot heal or move forward if we are in resistance of what is.
I personally was unable to get out of a long period of stagnation of the past few years. Only after learning to accept where I was, what I was allowing in my life and my participation in my own discomfort, was I then able to find the courage and ability to let go and move forward with trust.
Celebration of Self
So here I am and I’m happy to say I’m going to Portugal in a few weeks! This trip represents not only my love for travel but also a celebration of the deep acknowledgement and acceptance of all aspects of myself. Aspects that I ignored for many years. The people pleaser, the approval seeking aspects of myself, that once I fully acknowledged, accepted and interestingly enough, approved of, were alchemized into the current version of my most liberated self.
This trip is also a celebration of my beloved Tika. Who’s rainbow bridge anniversary is the day before my Gemini birthday. It was her sudden passing that shocked me. Cracked my heart open and began this unraveling process of suppressed and repressed energy. Energy that I had no idea I was holding onto so tightly. Physically, this manifested as burnout and heavy fatigue.
It all makes sense now but for so long I couldn’t figure out why many things in my life weren’t progressing in many aspects the way I was “visualizing” them to. Visualization doesn’t work if we have not acknowledged shadow energy.
Healing the Root
True healing, not surpressing, is a layered process and it can sometimes begin from one experience that catapults us into an unraveling. Once something breaks the seal, the process can become a fountain of emotional layers that have been waiting to erupt. This begins a transformative healing and deep shifting of energy, if we allow, beyond the initial catapulting experience. This is not always the case but it has been for me.
Shock is quite traumatic and what happens with shock is often the opposite of acceptance right? It is “I can’t believe this happened.” And because I don’t believe in ever denying how we feel or gaslighting ourselves, it’s ok and part of the process to feel this in any situation. Only through learning to accept, acknowledge and sit with each feeling we experience, even if the experience and emotion is denial, can we then alchemize, shift and heal. I don’t believe in ignoring or judging any of our own feelings that come up and I’ve shared my thoughts around what happens during these times here.
Tika’s greatest gift to me was not only her unconditional love while she was here with me but, as I can only finally say this 2 years later, the unraveling that her passing sent me into. Of course I would rather her still be here with me but that is not reality. I do not care when people say “she was only a dog.” (True gaslighting at it’s finest) She was one of the most kismet, authentic, love filled decisions and connections I’ve ever had in my life. And to be honest, at this point in my life, unless an experience or situation is as kismet, flowing, connected and based in authenticity, as my experience with Tika was, I’m not interested in participating. We have so much more choice in the active participation of creating our lives then we are led to believe. Don’t deny yourself of this.
Acknowledgment and Acceptance
Only after learning to accept every aspect of my life, acknowledging all parts of myself, every version of me, all the shadows I’ve confronted, all the denial, all of the things I pretended were fine when they were not, only then could I move into this most liberated version of self.
I believe acknowledgement and acceptance is one of the most foundational steps in healing and nobody can do it for you, except you. The only healer in your life is you. Only you can provide acceptance for yourself and learn to alchemize your pain into love or whatever you need to continue on to your next version of self. Nobody else can do this for you. They can guide you and assist you, absolutely, but nobody heals you but you.
We cannot fully let go, manifest, attract, receive, allow, until we acknowledge and accept what has been and what is. Until then, we will have unprocessed e-motions, shadows and limiting beliefs running our lives. This work is the real glow up.